Hey, it’s Jorgen again. Here’s another little tip for you.
By regularly thinking positive and optimistic thoughts, marital happiness will grow between you and your spouse. This way of thinking is nourishment for a healthy and happy mind, life and marriage. But with each negative and pessimistic thought, you feed yourself poison.
The more positive and optimistic thoughts you form and entertain, the more you’ll nourish your tender plant of marital happiness. The more noble and pure they are, the more determination you’ll have to be true to your values. The more controlled they are, the more power you’ll have to act rather than react. Thoughts are very powerful, for good or for bad.
Are you discouraged or just disappointed?
I want to describe the differences between a few things to help you understand how vital it is to be positive and optimistic, and the affect this way of thinking has on you.
There is a difference between discouragement and disappointment, and your happiness is at stake if you don’t know what it is.
When you are discouraged, you lack faith. Because something didn’t turn out the way you wanted or expected, you begin thinking negative and pessimistic thoughts. You begin losing hope. You begin believing that something may never happen. Your strength and determination to keep going diminishes. Feelings of disparity grow. Fear and doubt creep in. Your tender plant of happiness begins to wither away.
When you are disappointed, you don’t lose hope. Although you were let down, you think positive and optimistic thoughts. Your faith remains strong. You still believe that something good or beneficial will happen, thus you continue to exert strength and determination. Your tender plant of happiness continues to grow strong.
Fear and doubt are opposites of faith and belief. Discouragement is the opposite of disappointment. Fear and doubt are tied to discouragement. Faith and belief are tied to disappointment. Everyone feels discouragement or disappointment throughout their lives – it’s normal. But don’t let yourself get caught up in feeling discouragement, because it’s a poison. It’s perfectly fine, though, to feel disappointment.
By being positive and optimistic, you prevent discouragement. And when you prevent discouragement, you prevent misery. By being positive and optimistic, you nourish your tender plant of happiness and enjoy the fruit thereof on an ongoing basis.
Here’s a scenario to think about – Would you feel discouraged or disappointed if you had screwed up a big presentation at work that you had been preparing for all week? You may say “disappointed”, but what if you screwed up on 10 presentations in a row – would you feel discouraged or disappointed?
Does disappointment ever turn into discouragement? It sure can, and it often does! The challenge is to prevent it by staying positive and optimistic, full of faith and hope. At the moment you feed yourself the poison of negativity and pessimism, the change begins – you begin walking down the dark path of discouragement and your happiness withers.
Here’s another scenario. What if your dad kept making promises to you, and breaking them? Would you be discouraged or disappointed? Not only does that depend on your thoughts, but also where you get your happiness. Do you get it by your dad keeping promises or do you get it by planting and nourishing these 7 seeds? If your happiness is dependent on your dad, you will get discouraged at some point. But if your happiness is dependent on you planting and nourishing these seeds, you will only be disappointed when your dad breaks his promises. You will still have happiness inside.
Here’s a religious scenario. If a man is trying his best to do what God wants him to do, but he keeps messing up, does God get discouraged or just disappointed? Let me rephrase that question. Does God lose hope in him or does He keep believing that he’ll someday make the right choices? Does He ever give up on this man or will He continue to help him somehow? Does He get frustrated or is he patient? Does God get depressed or is He everlastingly happy? If you are religious, just ponder about what I’ve said and make your own conclusion. Could discouragement just be a mortal, finite characteristic? Food for thought.
Are you a worry-wart?
There’s a difference between being worried and being concerned. And again, your happiness is at stake if you don’t know the difference. My mentor described it like this, “Worry is stupid, but concern is intelligent.”
When someone worries, they are constantly troubled by something. They spend a lot of time focusing their attention and energy thinking about it, even though they may not be able to do anything about it. They feel disparity and hopelessness. They’re negative and pessimistic. They end up realizing that worrying was just a waste of time and energy, and hardly anything got accomplished or resolved. Worrying is simply stupid.
When someone is concerned, they do think about what’s troubling them, but they don’t have the attitude of “wo is me”. They’re constructive in their thoughts and formulate a plan on how to accomplish or resolve the issue that’s on their mind. They’re positive and optimistic. They realize that what they’ve been concerned about will soon be accomplished or resolved. Being concerned is intelligent.
How to fix marriage suffering from negativity and discouragement
Make a list of things you’re discouraged with on the worksheet below. Notice the types of thoughts you have when you think about them. Notice the feelings that come over you. Try persuading yourself to believe that what you’re discouraged about will be ok. Just trying to persuade yourself makes you think positive and optimistic thoughts, and is very nourishing to the soul. The more you do this, the more happiness will grow within your marriage. Your discouragement will turn into a simple disappointment and you’ll have more enthusiasm, strength and faith to fix what has happened or what is happening.
Make a list of things you worry about and are concerned with. When you review your list, ask yourself if you really need to worry about these things or if being concerned is a better option. You’ll realize that being concerned is always the better option. So, if you’re concerned about the things on your list, make an action plan on how you’re going to accomplish or resolve them. This way, you won’t let worry control your mood, behavior and thoughts. You’re in control.
How To Fix Marriage – Secrets Of Being Positive & Optimistic
Hey, it’s Jorgen again. Here’s another little tip for you.
By regularly thinking positive and optimistic thoughts, marital happiness will grow between you and your spouse. This way of thinking is nourishment for a healthy and happy mind, life and marriage. But with each negative and pessimistic thought, you feed yourself poison.
The more positive and optimistic thoughts you form and entertain, the more you’ll nourish your tender plant of marital happiness. The more noble and pure they are, the more determination you’ll have to be true to your values. The more controlled they are, the more power you’ll have to act rather than react. Thoughts are very powerful, for good or for bad.
Are you discouraged or just disappointed?
I want to describe the differences between a few things to help you understand how vital it is to be positive and optimistic, and the affect this way of thinking has on you.
There is a difference between discouragement and disappointment, and your happiness is at stake if you don’t know what it is.
When you are discouraged, you lack faith. Because something didn’t turn out the way you wanted or expected, you begin thinking negative and pessimistic thoughts. You begin losing hope. You begin believing that something may never happen. Your strength and determination to keep going diminishes. Feelings of disparity grow. Fear and doubt creep in. Your tender plant of happiness begins to wither away.
When you are disappointed, you don’t lose hope. Although you were let down, you think positive and optimistic thoughts. Your faith remains strong. You still believe that something good or beneficial will happen, thus you continue to exert strength and determination. Your tender plant of happiness continues to grow strong.
Fear and doubt are opposites of faith and belief. Discouragement is the opposite of disappointment. Fear and doubt are tied to discouragement. Faith and belief are tied to disappointment. Everyone feels discouragement or disappointment throughout their lives – it’s normal. But don’t let yourself get caught up in feeling discouragement, because it’s a poison. It’s perfectly fine, though, to feel disappointment.
By being positive and optimistic, you prevent discouragement. And when you prevent discouragement, you prevent misery. By being positive and optimistic, you nourish your tender plant of happiness and enjoy the fruit thereof on an ongoing basis.
Here’s a scenario to think about – Would you feel discouraged or disappointed if you had screwed up a big presentation at work that you had been preparing for all week? You may say “disappointed”, but what if you screwed up on 10 presentations in a row – would you feel discouraged or disappointed?
Does disappointment ever turn into discouragement? It sure can, and it often does! The challenge is to prevent it by staying positive and optimistic, full of faith and hope. At the moment you feed yourself the poison of negativity and pessimism, the change begins – you begin walking down the dark path of discouragement and your happiness withers.
Here’s another scenario. What if your dad kept making promises to you, and breaking them? Would you be discouraged or disappointed? Not only does that depend on your thoughts, but also where you get your happiness. Do you get it by your dad keeping promises or do you get it by planting and nourishing these 7 seeds? If your happiness is dependent on your dad, you will get discouraged at some point. But if your happiness is dependent on you planting and nourishing these seeds, you will only be disappointed when your dad breaks his promises. You will still have happiness inside.
Here’s a religious scenario. If a man is trying his best to do what God wants him to do, but he keeps messing up, does God get discouraged or just disappointed? Let me rephrase that question. Does God lose hope in him or does He keep believing that he’ll someday make the right choices? Does He ever give up on this man or will He continue to help him somehow? Does He get frustrated or is he patient? Does God get depressed or is He everlastingly happy? If you are religious, just ponder about what I’ve said and make your own conclusion. Could discouragement just be a mortal, finite characteristic? Food for thought.
Are you a worry-wart?
There’s a difference between being worried and being concerned. And again, your happiness is at stake if you don’t know the difference. My mentor described it like this, “Worry is stupid, but concern is intelligent.”
When someone worries, they are constantly troubled by something. They spend a lot of time focusing their attention and energy thinking about it, even though they may not be able to do anything about it. They feel disparity and hopelessness. They’re negative and pessimistic. They end up realizing that worrying was just a waste of time and energy, and hardly anything got accomplished or resolved. Worrying is simply stupid.
When someone is concerned, they do think about what’s troubling them, but they don’t have the attitude of “wo is me”. They’re constructive in their thoughts and formulate a plan on how to accomplish or resolve the issue that’s on their mind. They’re positive and optimistic. They realize that what they’ve been concerned about will soon be accomplished or resolved. Being concerned is intelligent.
How to fix marriage suffering from negativity and discouragement
Make a list of things you’re discouraged with on the worksheet below. Notice the types of thoughts you have when you think about them. Notice the feelings that come over you. Try persuading yourself to believe that what you’re discouraged about will be ok. Just trying to persuade yourself makes you think positive and optimistic thoughts, and is very nourishing to the soul. The more you do this, the more happiness will grow within your marriage. Your discouragement will turn into a simple disappointment and you’ll have more enthusiasm, strength and faith to fix what has happened or what is happening.
Make a list of things you worry about and are concerned with. When you review your list, ask yourself if you really need to worry about these things or if being concerned is a better option. You’ll realize that being concerned is always the better option. So, if you’re concerned about the things on your list, make an action plan on how you’re going to accomplish or resolve them. This way, you won’t let worry control your mood, behavior and thoughts. You’re in control.